8th
guy talk #2
I was having a conversation with two guys yesterday about something kind of interesting but really weird. One of my friends, who I hadn’t seen in about two years, who isn’t the jerk kind of guy/boyfriend at all, told me he really thinks that hispanic women want to be treated badly by guys for some reason. Kind of misogynisticly, if that’s a word. I had to have him explain this because I was just kind of baffled, but I tried not to judge what he was saying before he finished.
He told me how all the hispanic girls he’d gone out with, he’d always treated right and hadn’t done shady shit to them and wouldn’t ignore them, but was genuinely a good person to them (which I don’t think is a lie because I know him well enough know it’s true) and they’re all gotten bored because he treated them well. And they broke up with him.
I really wanted to disagree but he was putting out some pretty good examples. And at the same time, I’ve known girls who let themselves get treated like that, and when they have a good guy who does a lot for them and isn’t an asshole, they don’t want it. I even looked at my own life, and it was semi true, but at the same time the last time I got bored of someone they truly were boring, it wasn’t because they were nice to me. But there’s also an extent to which I’d let shit like that slide, especially now, and it’s probably because of the values I’ve grown up with.
For the last 10 years, I’ve gone to school with white people. And I think that might be where I’ve picked up some of the values that these same hispanic girls don’t have that my friend was talking about. So these girls expect to be treated badly by guys and when they’re good to them, they think that’s amazing because it’s out of the norm that they’re used to.
I’m not saying this is a good thing, or men should start treating certain women like crap, but it is an interesting topic of conversation.
